Love is not a real emotion. It is a space in man and between two people that imply vulnerability, opening, rejection of control, and, above all, a picture of ourselves that we have devoted to life as a whole. If we have the courage, after the initial love of a partner, we are going to be in the right intimacy – and that is getting naked, even when we are afraid we will be rejected.

One of the basic motivations for which we are here is the need and the search for contact and love. This is more than obvious. What is not so obvious is the reason we need love. What is so valuable in love that without it everything loses its meaning?

Love, in essence, gives us access to unconditional freedom to be what we really are and to achieve our ultimate potentials. In the context of relationships, love opens our individual boundaries (or masks of ego) so that we can have direct contact with each other, unconditionally connect and grow together. We could say that this is the main purpose of life. The question is how to achieve it.

The tragedy of love and problem with others

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Even in early childhood, most of us experienced a shock in the form of fear that we will not get what we need most – love. It drove us out of the track and disrupted the natural process of growing up and maturing in a capable, fearless and loving, capable individual. Rather than accept and give love unconditionally, we learned to hide and play games with each other. No wonder we have complicated relationships.

If others were aware of who we really are. If they would accept us unconditionally and allow us to be as we are, to give us full attention and faithfully reflect, without judgment, what is in us (including our true nature), then we would not have a problem. Everything would go smoothly, in full fulfillment of the purpose for which we are here. Since we are far from the desirable, we are dealing with problems, obstacles, resistance, dangers, pain, and suffering. It seems to be the only way we can learn and grow.