• Learning to take loving action for yourself regarding your emotional and physical health, your financial health, your time and space and your interactions with others

• Learning to value your true essence — your core self, rather than defining yourself through your looks or performance.

• Giving yourself the approval that you might be seeking from others, rather than judging yourself. Valuing your effort way more than outcomes, and separating your worth from outcomes.

• Making your needs just as important to you as others’ needs. Not meeting others’ needs while ignoring your own. Not giving yourself up to get others’ approval

Imagine treating yourself in the above ways. If you did, would you feel loved and lovable?

Your Inner Role Model

We all have an inner source of guidance about love. Since so few of us had adequate role models regarding loving ourselves, it’s very important to turn to your inner role model.

Imagine an older wiser version of yourself. Imagine that you can ask this older wiser self, “What would be loving to me?” in any given situation. Imagine the conversation you would have with your older wiser you. If you try this, you might be surprised at the wisdom you are able to tap into!

When you love yourself rather than trying to get love from others, you heal emptiness, aloneness and neediness. When you love yourself in the above ways, you become so filled up with love that you have love to share with others. Sharing love is the most wonderful experience in life, way more fulfilling than getting love!

If you have never taken the time to learn to love yourself, why not start now? There is no time like right now to learn to stop abandoning yourself, and learn to love yourself — and then be able to share your love with others.