Reasons Why the Mother-Daughter Bond is so Unique

Brain Chemistry Has a Lot to Do With It

Mother and Daughter

Outside of carrying your daughter for nine months, there are many other reasons why a mother-daughter bond can be so tight. I listed five reasons below that resonate with me as I reflect on the unique relationship I had with my Mom.

1. She understood me – My mom was a good sounding board because I felt like she understood me without me having to fully explain my situation. She anticipated my needs. I remember I had surgery once and my mom came out to stay with me. It was so nice because she did the grocery shopping, cooked, cleaned, and did the laundry without me having to ask. She anticipated my needs. It took the stress away, and allowed me the peaceful space I needed to heal. It was wonderful.

2. Strong bond – I always knew my Mom had my back, no matter what. She may have been disappointed in something I did or said, and she had no problem letting me know, but despite her disappointment, I always knew that she loved me and that she would see me through whatever situation I found myself in.

3. Diehard nurturer – My Mom always made sure my brother and I had everything we needed in order to be successful in life. We had the right mix of love and discipline, food, clothes, shelter, and protection. I felt safe knowing that my mother was near.

4. Friendship – When I think of a true friend, I think of my Mom. She embodied the meaning of true friendship. We always maintained healthy boundaries, and I always knew that she was my Mom first, but there were those underlying qualities of friendship that I could always count on like, trustworthiness, dependability, non-judgement, and support. She also taught me how to be a friend.

5. Love and family matters – My Mom was the first one to show me how to love. She loved me unconditionally. That love translated into my love for God and my family. I am now a mother and I understand how deep the love for a child runs.

The nine months of unbearable displeasure,
Are all of a sudden worth it when you see this treasure.
The feeling of holding her in your arms at last,
The joyous emotion will never dare to pass.

You get to watch her grow, just as you did.
You would give your eternal soul for her, your life you would bid.
Trials and tribulations come with the joys of puberty.
A wider respect for your parent’s patience with you, soon to be.

You want to hug her and spank her, whenever she dares sass.
Quick witted, smart, and more than sometimes stubborn as an ass.
But she comes to you when she needs to cry on a shoulder,
You want her to stay with you and never get any older.

Sometimes you lose your mind over the protesting, angsty screams.
Still the love in your heart makes it burst at the seams.
But soon enough she is out of the house and into school.
Sometimes you feel like your experiencing life’s crueler rule.

You have come to be disheveled when you go through life without her.
You don’t know what to do. But you are still her mother.
Remembering back on the old days, when life was a real mess,
You will always love her, nonetheless.

This is the feeling of maternal love,
Towards your precious gift, sent from up above.

 “It’s a special bond that spans the years.

Through laughter, worry, smiles and tears.

A sense of trust that can’t be broken, a depth of love sometimes unspoken.

A lifelong friendship built on sharing,

Hugs and kisses, warmth and caring.

Mother and daughter, their hearts as one.

A link that can never be undone.”