I am all about passion,ambition.love and life.A teacher ,a mother ,an educational coach, Psychologist and a poet.I see life from my perspective and wana live with that.
You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? ’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops, Weakened by my soulful cries?
Does my haughtiness offend you? Don’t you take it awful hard ’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines Diggin’ in my own backyard.
You may shoot me with your words, You may cut me with your eyes, You may kill me with your hatefulness, But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you? Does it come as a surprise That I dance like I’ve got diamonds At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history’s shame I rise Up from a past that’s rooted in pain I rise I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear I rise Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear I rise Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise I rise I rise.
“Fearlessness is like a muscle. I know from my own life that the more I exercise it the more natural it becomes to not let my fears run me.”
Outside of carrying your daughter for nine months, there are many other reasons why a mother-daughter bond can be so tight. I listed five reasons below that resonate with me as I reflect on the unique relationship I had with my Mom.
1. She understood me – My mom was a good sounding board because I felt like she understood me without me having to fully explain my situation. She anticipated my needs. I remember I had surgery once and my mom came out to stay with me. It was so nice because she did the grocery shopping, cooked, cleaned, and did the laundry without me having to ask. She anticipated my needs. It took the stress away, and allowed me the peaceful space I needed to heal. It was wonderful.
2. Strong bond – I always knew my Mom had my back, no matter what. She may have been disappointed in something I did or said, and she had no problem letting me know, but despite her disappointment, I always knew that she loved me and that she would see me through whatever situation I found myself in.
3. Diehard nurturer – My Mom always made sure my brother and I had everything we needed in order to be successful in life. We had the right mix of love and discipline, food, clothes, shelter, and protection. I felt safe knowing that my mother was near.
4. Friendship – When I think of a true friend, I think of my Mom. She embodied the meaning of true friendship. We always maintained healthy boundaries, and I always knew that she was my Mom first, but there were those underlying qualities of friendship that I could always count on like, trustworthiness, dependability, non-judgement, and support. She also taught me how to be a friend.
5. Love and family matters – My Mom was the first one to show me how to love. She loved me unconditionally. That love translated into my love for God and my family. I am now a mother and I understand how deep the love for a child runs.
“Happiness is mother and daughter time.”
The nine months of unbearable displeasure, Are all of a sudden worth it when you see this treasure. The feeling of holding her in your arms at last, The joyous emotion will never dare to pass.
You get to watch her grow, just as you did. You would give your eternal soul for her, your life you would bid. Trials and tribulations come with the joys of puberty. A wider respect for your parent’s patience with you, soon to be.
You want to hug her and spank her, whenever she dares sass. Quick witted, smart, and more than sometimes stubborn as an ass. But she comes to you when she needs to cry on a shoulder, You want her to stay with you and never get any older.
Sometimes you lose your mind over the protesting, angsty screams. Still the love in your heart makes it burst at the seams. But soon enough she is out of the house and into school. Sometimes you feel like your experiencing life’s crueler rule.
You have come to be disheveled when you go through life without her. You don’t know what to do. But you are still her mother. Remembering back on the old days, when life was a real mess, You will always love her, nonetheless.
This is the feeling of maternal love, Towards your precious gift, sent from up above.
“A daughter is a girl who eventually grows up to be her mom’s best friend.”
“It’s a special bond that spans the years.
Through laughter, worry, smiles and tears.
A sense of trust that can’t be broken, a depth of love sometimes unspoken.
It doesn’t need any very complicated algorithm to be made to learn the art of living life. It’s a very simple thing which requires just some effort.
We get a number of situations in our life when we totally get broken. We may encounter a sudden demise of our loved one, breakup in our relationship, divorce, trust break, financial loss or any such worst thing.
Sometimes, in those adverse situations, the brain of a few people just gives up. They do certain mistakes which they had never supposed to do, creating a way for deep regret.
In everyone’s life, odds surely come. The real trick lies in the way you treat them. Actually, the odds are important to get the real taste of goodness. Keep reading to get the proof.
A SHORT but COOL Story
Once upon a time, god started a review of his policies and rules. After some lookup, he found that many people were facing misery because of life’s algorithm of ‘Up’s and Down’s’ in his empire. On discussion with advisors, he decided to remove this rule. An announcement was made around the entire earth regarding this change. Every human thought it’s a great decision and that there will be no problems from now on in their life.
Some time passed. Life had completely changed. There was no misery now. There were no hurdles now. Everyone was living a stable life. Feelings of hunger, nervousness, disease, and everything bad had got erased from human minds.
One day, God looked at the earth again. In the first look, he became very happy that no one is suffering now and thought his decision to remove that rule was right. But, on close observation, he was shocked, there was one vital thing missing. It was happiness.
Nobody was excited about meeting their loved ones because they had never parted. Nobody was enjoying their warm blanket because they had never felt cold. The pizza was no longer a delicacy because humans never felt hunger. They had lost every form of emotion.
In a theoretical manner, everyone was now free from the misery of disease, hunger, cold, etc. But, practically, they were bound by an invisible new misery. The misery of loss of happiness. The misery of a plane life.
I am sure that you have found why odds are important for your happiness by reading the above story. But, you can make it easy to pass through your bad times.
Be Hopeful
Hope is not pretending that troubles don’t exist. It is the hope that they won’t Last Forever. That hurts will be healed and difficulties overcome. That we will be led out of the darkness & into the sunshine.
When the world says, ‘Give Up’. Hope whispers, ‘Try it one more time.’
Never lose hope because miracles happen every day. Like, autumn(fall) is always followed by spring. Just keep this in mind that the pain you have been feeling, can’t compare to the joy that’s coming. Everything that you are starving for will come to you at the right time. Remember, god works in mysterious ways.
Actually, facing up’s and down’s is a universal thing. Even, animals face this. In certain seasons, they can run really short of food or water and in some other seasons, they get plenty of those resources.
Even if you don’t believe in God (Most Probably you believe), you should keep a hope that good time will come. Conditions will Change. Happiness will return.
“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.”
When you’re seeing someone new and it’s clear is getting serious, it can be hard to know when you’re starting to fall in love . when the heat starts to turn up, it’s natural to wonder about how long it takes to fall for someone, before thinking about finding the right time to express your feelings to your partner. You think about them all the time, you can’t imagine life without them, you even want them to meet your friends and family. But has it been long enough?
“There really is no average time it takes to know that you’re in love. “Some people fall in love on the first date. Some have been friends for months or years, and then one or both realize that they have developed much deeper feelings for each other.”
“Maybe yes. Maybe no: If you have those feelings, it is perfectly OK to say those three words. “You do want to be careful about the timing of when you say this and how you say this. You also want to ask yourself, ‘Why do I want to say this now?’ What does the timing of this mean for you? Is it simply the right time, or are you afraid that you might lose them if you don’t say it.”
If you think you’re starting to fall in love , it’s OK to talk to them about it, even early on. But, it may also be worthwhile to check in with yourself about what you’re feeling and what you’re envisioning for your future. Knowing why you want to express your feelings can help in finding the best way to express them.
But is love different at the beginning? How can we tell the joy and excitement from seeing someone new, versus the deep I’ll let you eat my fries and I’ll put vapor rub on your chest when you have the flu love? “If you are like many people, there is likely going to be a difference between the first few weeks or months of falling [in] love, that may or may not be different from actually being in love, “Being in love can happen at the same time as falling in love, but that can take awhile.” After the butterflies and T-Swift songs that is falling in love, comes the comfort, stability, and pride of being in love. There’s a certain type of love that happens over time, when you start to show your overnight retainer, or totally lose it on a romantic vacation. Falling in love and being in love can happen at the same time, but at every stage, your love will build overtime as well.
The signs to look for that will tell you that you’re in love. “You are genuinely curious about your partner, an you want to know what is important to them,You want to do things for them. You share more vulnerable parts of your inner [self] with them that you normally keep hidden away.”You may find you share common values, you see a future with them in it. From wanting to gush all about your crush, to wanting to do little things for them, there are many signs you may be in love, all of which can happen at any time.
There is no objective timeline for anything in a relationship — including when you’ll know that you’re in love. If you’re starting to think that you’re falling in deep, talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and where you see your relationship heading. Everyone falls in love differently, and at a different pace. You can’t map out your feelings on a clock or calendar. When it comes to falling in love, the only thing you can follow is your heart.
You may have many more thoughts but do fall in love as it’s the most amazing feeling ever.
Love!!!To fall in love is an amazing thing that anyone who is caught into feel excited and terrified. Why? Falling in love with someone is something scary because, for the most part, it is completely out of your control. The heart wants what the heart wants.It is also possible to fall in love with a person and have no idea why you fell in love with them in the first place. Your subconscious is responsible.This is why love is such a “mysterious phenomenon” and many people put it all down to their own personal destiny. But in reality, it has nothing to do with fate, it was all related to your subconscious, which was quietly figuring out whether the person matches your checklist or not. The truth of the matter is that if you’re able to grow more aware of your subconscious mind’s specific criteria, you’ll be able to quickly determine why you fall for some people and not for others. Falling in love is a glorious and crazy feeling that worth experiencing in our lives.Image result for falling in love pic when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due to the increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.Do you believe in love at first sight? That the moment you set your eyes to him/her, you feel you have butterflies in your stomach that you feel fluttering. You feel very nervous due to the release of some chemicals.But don’t you know that the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually. Ohh, sooo sweet crazy feeling :)“Partners who are similar in broad dispositions, like personality, are more likely to feel the same way in their day-to-day lives,” “This may make it easier for partners to understand each other.”When do you know you fall in love? When the way you look at the world and experience life can change in a moment.When do you know you fall in love? When you find time goes by in a fast forward, how you wish that there will be a pause button on life to freeze in a perfect moment and stay forever.When do you know you fall in love? When your lover tirelessly running around your mind that makes you out of focus on other interests or failed to remember other things. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.When do you know you fall in love? When you sit in silence with your lover and feel like it’s the best conversation that you’ve ever had. Sometimes, the most meaningful things are found through silence.When do you know that you fall in love? When you find yourself kissing pillows, full of happiness,jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason, make you feel sleepless, restless, and make you think about your lover, a lot. That’s just like an intense burst of dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.When do you know that you fall in love? When you look at each other’s eyes for two minutes or more increased the feelings of passionate love and affection towards the other person. Eye contact can connect you to someone and even ignite feelings of love inside you for that person you have never previously met,When do you know that you fall in love? When you are both easily get upset even the smallest of things but trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression. (Little Things In Love)To Fall In Love Is Easy But To Stay In Love Is Hard..Emotions, especially love, passion and happiness, are our strongest motivators because we will do anything to maintain them.However, we often didn’t realize that such thing never lasts. Falling in love might last for a couple of months or sometimes, it can last for a couple of years.We are often blinded by the illusion that everything good is infinite and invincible. Once the feeling faded and reality sinks, it gets a little tricky.Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. Falling in love isn’t a choice; it’s an irrational chain of events that simply cannot be controlled. It’s easy to fall in love with somebody for all their good qualities: they’re smart, sexy, funny.Falling in love is unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn’t really last forever. While the levels of chemicals like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it’s up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive. (Chemistry in Love)While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love. Staying in love is the difficult part. Everyday is your choice. There is this wonderful quote: “No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.”One day, you found out that the person you fell in love with is imperfect. Your relationship run into problems. But if you want to stay in love,and if you really truly love your lover and vice versa, commit to that love and plan on it being hard work. Real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. This is the true definition of loving someone, to love those imperfections as wholly and completely as you love the good.With the evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love.Falling in love is exciting, with growing passion and the intensity of discovering the one you love. But intensity is not the same as intimacy, and intimacy takes courage and work. It is the simple daily interactions and service that maintain, strengthen, and grow love into something solid and good. “Being in love first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise.” Actions speaks louder than wordsAre you aware of your body language when communicating with others? Are you conscious of your body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements?If you keep your hands and torso openBody language experts agree that posture speaks louder than words.Keeping your hands stuffed in your pockets and your shoulders turned inward sends the signal that you’re not interested. But talking with your hands and standing in an open stance shows that you’re available.It’s hard to have an eye contact when you are not interested to someone.So enjoy this feeling of love and converse with your subconscious to understand it’s love.
People’s favourite distraction is falling in love!!!
What are the five love languages and what do they mean? We’re helping you decode them to understand the different ways people express love.
The five love languages describe the way we feel loved and appreciated. Depending on our individual personality types, we may feel loved differently than how our partners do. Understanding and decoding these different ways of showing love will help take the guesswork out of your partner’s expectations and needs.
1: Words of Affirmation
This love language expresses love with words that build up your partner. Verbal compliments don’t have to be complicated; the shortest and simplest praises can be the most effective.
“That dress looks incredible on you!”
“You always make me laugh.”
“I love your hair today.”
Words mean a lot if your partner has this love language. Compliments and an “I love you” can go a long way. On the other hand, negative or insulting comments can hurt your partner and it could take them longer to forgive than others.
2: Acts of Service
Your partner might have this love language if their motto is “Actions speak louder than words.”
This love language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like. Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up a prescription are all acts of service. They require some thought, time, and effort.
All of these things should be done with positivity and with your partner’s ultimate happiness in mind to be considered an expression of love. Actions out of obligation or with a negative tone are something else entirely.
3: Receiving Gifts
This love language isn’t necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or thoughtful gift makes your partner feel loved and appreciated. Something as simple as picking up a pint of their favorite ice cream after a long work week can make a huge impact.
This is different than Acts of Service, where you show affection by performing actions to help your partner.
4: Quality Time
This love language is all about undivided attention. No televisions, no smartphones, or any other distractions. If this is your partner’s primary language, they don’t just want to be included during this period of time, they want to be the center of your attention. They want their partners to look at them and them only.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t curl up on the couch to watch Netflix or HBO; it just means that you need to make sure to dedicate time together without all of the distractions. That will help them feel comforted in the relationship.
Every time you cancel a date, postpone time together or aren’t present during your time together, it can be extremely hurtful to your partner as it can make them feel like you care more about other things or activities than them.
5: Physical Touch
To people with this love language, nothing is more impactful than the physical touch of their partner. They aren’t necessarily into over-the-top PDA, but they do feel more connected and safe in a relationship by holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc.
If Physical Touch is your partner’s primary love language, they will feel unloved without physical contact. All of the words and gifts in the world won’t change that. They want to feel you close by, not just emotionally, but physically.
Summary
There are five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Each one is important and expresses love in its own way. Learning your partner’s and your own primary love language will help create a stronger bond in your relationship.
So here I am with a quiz and would love to more about your love language.
#What is your love language?
#What does your partner except your love language to be?
# How would you find it?
#Would you change your love language for your partner?
“For love we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships.
Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life”
Everybody has goals and dreams. These dreams are at the center of who you really are. It is the core essence of who you are as a person, and the very purpose of your BEING. What you are dreaming of accomplishing in your life is God’s way of getting you involved in his Master Plan. You were gifted with a set of dreams and talents, in the hope that you would act out these passions, follow your dreams and thusly move forward in life.
It’s really a great pity that we’ve been told already since early childhood that we should stop dreaming and start “living.” What a mistake! Living IS dreaming! This is exactly why we are here: to pursue our dreams! Not for selfish reasons, but for the sake of everybody. By following MY dreams, I am becoming a better person, a happy person, shining brightly like a sun, lightening up the lives of those around me. If I decide to forget about my dreams, then I will become like a plant without water or sunlight, leaves hanging down, begging for water and looking rather miserable. Am I of any help to myself or to the world when I abandon my dreams?
Your dream is the reason for the way you are! Your dream is not a coincidence. Your dream IS who you are. You SHOULD pursue it! Your dream gives you a sense of meaning and purpose, and drives you on into your chosen future. Your dream IS the meaning of your life!
Why then does it seem to be so difficult to follow your dream? First, because of the anti-dream-program running in your head, a program installed when you were just a kid. Second, because your dream is always outside of your comfort zone. Pursuing your dream requires conscious effort, growth and change; this can feel somewhat uncomfortable in the beginning. You may experience some fears and worries, but this is normal. Don’t focus on the fear, but focus on the dream. This way the dream becomes more important to you than the fear. Spending your life in fear and worry surely isn’t part of the Master Plan.
Ask yourself this question: “What do I really want? Realizing my dreams, or getting stuck in my fears? Do I choose to follow my dream and harvest satisfaction, freedom, happiness and abundance? Or do I lock myself up in my room with my good old irritation, lack of energy, fear, fatigue and depression?” The choice is yours
You have probably heard a lot of people say that “love hurts” — and we all tend to follow the crowd and believe that “love hurts” but this isn’t true.
Love doesn’t hurt you. A person that doesn’t know how to love hurts you. Don’t get it twisted.
I think Love is the most incredible thing in the world — but when people lie, cheat, and betray our trust, we become bitter, we blame love — we start losing hope in love.
The worst part about the heartbreak is that we lose ourselves trying to hold on to that person who doesn’t care at all.
Watch this how-to learn the secret ‘Desire’ text message that men are powerless to resist” We start saying “I am afraid to fall in love because I don’t want to get hurt again”
Love isn’t supposed to hurt. If it does, then it is absolutely not a true love. Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.
I know how it feels to be broken. Been there and experienced that kind of pain. I’ve been in a relationship for 14 years but found out I’ve been cheated on this whole time. When you find yourself in a similar situation, how do you begin to trust someone new?
It does take a lot of courage for a person to open their heart to someone new because we all have that fear inside of us due to bad past experience. But don’t let your past be an issue in your present and future.
Love truly, be fearless — accept the person the way they are — because true love sees beyond all imperfections.
Someone who truly loves you sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, and how hard you can be to handle but still wants you.
True love makes you happy in a way that you have never been happy before. It heals your broken parts and lifts you up.
Don’t let things and circumstances change you into someone you’re not.
If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one If you are in a relationship and your significant other constantly judges you, brings out your imperfections. Makes you feel like you are a burden. Doesn’t appreciate you and the efforts you make for them, get out of the relationship.
Some people try to fantasize abusive relationship — which is wrong on so many levels. As soon as you see that you’re not getting the love, attention or respect, walk away.
Don’t stress over someone who doesn’t value your worth.
Don’t give up on something you really want Your relationship should erase your tears, not your smile. True love doesn’t hurt, it heals. It brings happiness to your life. It empowers you to become the best version of yourself.
A real love is supposed to feel euphoric and spontaneous.
The most amazing and romantic things aren’t in materialistic stuff. The things that matter the most are those little things you do every day to show significant other that you care and that you’re thinking of them. When you love someone unconditionally, you’d go out of your way to make them happy and feel special.
True love knows someone’s weakness and doesn’t take advantage of them. It knows their flaws and still accepts them
Always remember that when love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, hurt you or make you feel unwanted. It’s supposed to be a cure to all your worries. Real love means to stay together and never give up.
You don’t give up on the people you love
A person that really loves you wouldn’t give up on you no matter how hard the situation is — when it’s real you can’t walk away.
Love, respect, and acceptance are very important in any healthy relationship.
Don’t change yourself just to make someone love you. Be yourself and let the right one fall for you. People nowadays try to change you into their own definition of perfection. They get caught up in so-called “types” that makes me sick.
It’s ridiculous how much society says things like “I want a girl or boy covered in tattoos, I want a boy who has a beard and lots of piercings and long hair” blah blah blah
What most of those people fail to realize is that looks change, and fade. How about a guy or woman who treats you right, who looks in your eyes and you can see how much they truly love you and admire your company?
Maybe someone who even in their worst moods will still do what they can to make you smile? That’s something you should be looking for.
I believe, one day you do find someone who can turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another person. That’s the person worth keeping in your life.
To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”
“You have to be strong.
“Be strong,” came that ceaseless whisper. “Be strong,” well-wishers said. “Be strong. Be strong. Be strong.”I was like the unshakeable lighthouse tower you often see in paintings, standing tall in the midst of a tumultuous storm, gray skies, roaring waves, and angry sea breeze everywhere.Then one day, the feat of being that strong tower was simply too much to bear. I’d built a dam to keep back the emotions that threatened to overwhelm me but that dam couldn’t possibly stand the weight of those emotions forever. It gave way.
I sobbed like I’d never sobbed before in my mother’s arms. And so long as we’re being honest, I’d say I sobbed every day thereafter.
This expression I’d so feared, this display of vulnerability I had for so long resisted and avoided had at long last caught up with me. Yet I felt no shame or embarrassment. I felt no anger with myself or disappointment in my supposed weakness.
Instead, I felt other things.
Release.
Freedom.
Peace.
Love.
It was then that I realized that in my efforts to be strong, I had been denying myself the very feelings I’d wanted to experience all along.
Too often, we build walls around ourselves in the midst of grief, pain, or challenges, inflating ourselves up to be proud people who don’t need anyone’s help, people who are getting by just fine, people who are strong enough to weather the storm on their own.
We close ourselves off to feeling anything in the name of self-preservation. We distance ourselves from emotions that by all means scare us because of how weak, vulnerable, incapable, or unable they may make us seem to our loved ones.
However, it’s only through allowing ourselves to embrace that weakness and it’s only through allowing ourselves to feel those daunting emotions that we invite love in to strengthen us.
It’s actually a beautiful thing for someone to be weak for that reason, because in that weakness, we rely and depend on others to build us up again, to make us strong, to comfort and encourage us.
An incredible bond is established between you and another person when you embrace your weakness. In that moment, transparency, honesty, and open communication win.
Not only have you both reached a new level of personal growth and grown too in your intimacy, but you’ve also given that individual an incredible gift: the opportunity to demonstrate their friendship, loyalty, and love for you by being there, by being a friend, by being present, and by enacting love.
When we bottle our emotions in and suppress them, however, never letting anyone see into our soul, then we are denying others an amazing opportunity to show up for us.
We are denying our relationships the opportunity to expand, evolve, and grow to a new level. And we are essentially stopping the flow of love between us and others—life-saving love that has the potential to give us more strength than we ever thought possible.
So I made the decision to embrace my emotions and whatever weaknesses happened to visit me, to welcome the vulnerable position that would put me in.
If someone wanted to hold me while I cried, I let them.If someone wanted to be a listening ear, I spoke from the depths of my heart.
If someone asked me how I was doing, I answered with honesty, even if it meant admitting that I was hurting and devastated.
Again and again, I felt the flow of love between myself and those around me. It was uplifting and intoxicating; empowering and encouraging. It was love like I’d never seen it in action before—the type of love that can only be perfected in our very weaknesses
Instead, when the pain was too much to bear,
But it wasn’t weakness I saw. In those moments, when he opened himself so entirely and became vulnerable before me, I saw only strength. I saw only courage.
Even now, as I write this, it’s with tears painting trails down my face. I embrace what we might call weakness because I know now that it’s in my weakness that I find strength. It’s in my struggle that I find determination; it’s in my challenges that I find perseverance; and it’s in my vulnerability that I find love, peace, and the will to go on.
Have you been spending too much time hiding behind walls in an effort to be strong? Have you been distancing yourself from others, fearing they will think you weak? Have you kept your emotions at arm’s length because they intimidate you, scare you, or fill you with uncertainties?
It’s time to give yourself permission to feel. It’s time to embrace the very vulnerability you shun and in doing so, discover the love, joy, and peace that waits for you on the other side.
In the end, it’s actually through our weaknesses that we become strong again.
I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death.
“The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express.”
Beauty Is Not In The Face; Beauty Is A Light In The Heart
Much difference exists between looking beautiful and feeling beautiful. The former refers to the visual elements, such as, your body shape, your skin and your hair while the latter refers to your inner beauty. Inner beauty is based on one’s personality traits, such as, action, attitudes and behavior. It’s our inner beauty which is reflected in our soul. It leads us towards positivity. If we feel good about ourselves, we can increase our self-confidence and lead ourselves towards self-development. So, there is a need for increasing inner beauty.
Real beauty is not to be conformed to conventional beauty standards, but it’s to one’s inner self – Your inner self is the person you are inside. Real beauty is on the inside which is more important than one’s outward appearance. One looks good with external looks, but is known better in terms of internal features of personality which is based on one’s emotional, intellectual and spiritual qualities. Inner beauty is something on which a person needs to pay attention, because, as he gets on with his life, all deeds and actions are drawn from that inner beauty.
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart”, signifies the importance of inner beauty leading one to focus attention on developing and strengthening inner beauty. It is your inner beauty that has a lot to do with what you offer the world – having a direct impact on society and life you go about. In this way, one should not discourage oneself if he or she is not genetically inherited in a way to match a perfect appearance. It must be noted that the physical features of one’s face and body are determined by genetics in that there is no real contribution of a person, but what contributes significantly is what you have worth offering others. Thus, feeling your best is more important than looking physically beautiful and attractive so that you can successfully offer your talents, intelligence and knowledge by performing an act of kindness and compassion, gracefulness and empathy which is revealed by nothing else but you.
Conforming to so-called beauty standards is nothing more than leading oneself towards facing disappointments or discontents or displeasures, which creates negativity, hinders success and does not allow one to make one’s talent shine. It must also be noted that if we believe in such beauty standards, in other words, we are teaching ourselves to hate our bodies, set us apart from others leading a dissatisfying life, whereas it is important to believe that every person has talents and talents must be discovered so that we can find them as strengths to live life satisfactorily.
Directing ourselves to consider the importance of inner beauty, we can discontinue forming thoughts of perfection. We begin to accept as we are while improving our inner qualities that are far better than facial attractiveness. Instead of giving preference to how we look with our skin color, shape of our eyebrows, eyes, nose or lips, we focus our attention to improve our personality in terms of inner beauty – which is the real beauty – beauty of the heart that shines within us. It provides us perceptual experience and pleasure and satisfaction inspiring us to perform good deeds and actions.
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